Who Are You?

“I know there’s a place you walked
Where love falls from the trees
My heart is like a broken cup
I only feel right on my knees” ~ The Who

Who are you?

When you were 12 years old, what did you want to do when you ‘grew up’? Adults ask children that question all the time, as if a child has any inkling of what they truly want to be. But do you know what? I think the 12 year old you had a better grasp on that concept than the ‘grown-up’ you does. Before you became concerned with finances, responsibilities, taxes … your only limit to who you wanted to become was your imagination.

The most successful, happy people in the world are those who are doing what their 12 year old self dreamed of doing. These are the people who change the world.

Just ask this kid.

Come on, be one of us.

Pomp And Circumstance

I was in touch with great souls who exalted flesh and spirit over dollars and cents, and to whom the thin wail of the starved slum child meant more than all the pomp and circumstance of commercial expansion and world empire. ~ Jack London

We live in an increasingly smaller world. It seems everyone is seeking recognition for everything they do; success is measured in followers on Twitter and Instagram, friends on Facebook … at the cost of fewer and fewer real, tangible humans to interact with. We strive for the instant celebrity of a viral video, a shared meme … anything to make us feel like we are being noticed out there.

Instead, how about we try an exercise this week? Do things without the expectation of being noticed, and more: Don’t get upset when you aren’t noticed. Do what you do for the sake of doing it. Do a good job because you are able to do a good job. If someone takes credit for your work, allow them to have it! Seek satisfaction in your own heart without worrying about what others think. Try it – just for a week.

A little more, and this is to strive for as you walk your road. When you fail, when you encounter strife or pressure, confide in one or two close, real life friends instead of broadcasting it to the world for sympathy. Breathe. Pray. Realize that it’s not forever. If it’s tragedy, mourn and cry and seek the solace of love, and then get over it and keep moving forward. That may sound harsh, but there is life to be lived and joys to celebrate.

Speaking of celebration: when you succeed, dance and shout and be grateful … and then get over it. Breathe. Pray. Realize that it’s not forever and the road holds new experiences for you. Keep moving forward. Cherish your failures and your successes, because they are yours to own. Don’t allow them to become a burden.

Yours is a unique gift. 21 questions Share the fruits of your gift anonymously when you can. Lift someone above you, so they can see the view.

This Strange Engine

“Every artist was first an amateur.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

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The featured image is of a tool I use for my work. Chances are you have one very much like this. My cards are not special; they are just like yours. But my cards have aided in my business. They have helped me pay my bills, finance vacations, buy groceries and clothes for my children. More, they have enabled me to travel to places I might not have ever seen: Zurich, Munich, Berlin and Barcelona. At its simplest description, the deck is just a stack of paper, 52 sheets of paper in a stack. web services Without a guiding hand, that’s all it will ever be: a stack of paper, gathering dust in a dark drawer.

I have practiced many thousands of hours in the techniques I use to entertain and educate with a deck of cards. I have a passion for the stage, I have a passion for energizing and inspiring people. I cannot paint, I cannot sing well or play a musical instrument. Oh, I can sit a the piano and play a song … I can pick out the notes, but I cannot make music. It was given to others to write songs, make poetry, design buildings. My vehicle, my instrument to accomplish these things is This Strange Engine: My Deck. The pen is my friend, the art of the story is my companion, but the deck (in my hands) expresses what I have in my soul.

What is your gift? Do you know, have you sought it out? As a child, what were your dreams? Are you living them now? So many questions … let’s look at it this way:

Knowing your gift is the key, the very first step. In a very real way, it defines who you are. I’ve seen the popular meme lately that “you are not your job” … but that is simply not true. What you dedicate yourself to is exactly who you are. It’s usually one of the first things people ask about you, and the last thing they say about you after you die. So … Who Are You? Think about these things. Here some questions I use to help define myself and the curious:

1) What draws people to you? Is it your leadership ability? Your loving nature? Your ability to create fun wherever you are? The way you listen? Your quality for sharing a story or a joke in a way that everyone can enjoy it?

2) What have you been doing with yourself? What is something you have been doing all your life? Your Gift is a path that has been with you since childhood. Looking back, what is something that has always been easy for you and, when you’re doing it, makes you feel alive and inspired?

3) What are you afraid of? We all have anxieties and fears in ourselves that come from being wounded earlier in life. Our gift tends to be the opposite of this fear as we try to heal ourselves and others around us. I love being on stage and telling my stories, but I have wrestled all my life with questions about the worthiness of my own potential. What have you wrestled with?

Be honest with yourself. Write down the answers to the questions above and really focus on them. Put away your fear for a moment and relish in the ‘what if?’. Look seriously at your gift, realize that this is the direction your path begins and (if you are ready for a change) pick it up and apply some passion, some dedication to it. Find out where it takes you, and don’t stop there.

To Boldly Go

Guess what?

If you are unhappy or unsatisfied in your life (business, personal, spiritual …) you are the one responsible for changing it! That means that you have to do something different in order to get different results.

The classic definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting to get different results. Do you know what will happen when you try to make a change? You will trip yourself up.

A body (or mind) at rest wants to stay at rest. A body (or mind) in motion wants to stay in motion … along the same course unless some outside force acts. Complacency and fear rule the mind and the mind in turn will attempt to subdue the spirit. cheap hotels . Your spirit has courage, but there’s always a part of your mind that will try to convince you otherwise. The brain wants to remain.

Things that will stop boldness every time

1) “I’m doing fine

When the road gets tough, it is easy to settle back into the usual routine and think to yourself, ‘Well, I don’t really need to lose weight. I look okay.’ ‘There are people worse off than me.’ ‘I don’t really want to move ahead in my business, that’s just greedy ambition.

The above statement gives you permission to not change … because you’re just fine, just as you are.

Except you’re not. It’s your brain fooling you into thinking that you are.

I’m not telling you to not be happy where you are. If you are truly content at your current weight, ability and position then you do not need to change a thing. But don’t pretend and use that as an excuse to remain stagnant, because in the long run that course will leave you (as well as your family and friends) miserable and frustrated. travelling distance . When I’m working on my show, one phrase I don’t allow myself to use is: ‘That’s good enough’ or ‘it plays well’. Such phrases stagnate the artist, so I am constantly looking for ways to improve the effect or its impact on the program as a whole.

If you are having trouble sleeping, struggling to get up every morning to go to a job you dislike, arguing with your partner more than you’re loving, getting angry too fast over insignificant things … you are not ‘fine’. It’s time to try something new.

2) Inertia

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Most people think there is an organic drive for success and happiness. This is not the truth. There is only a drive for ‘more of the same.’ It’s basic physics.

You will not lose 50 lbs or improve your lifestyle by thinking about how much you want it. You have to battle the inertia and take action. This is true with every goal.

If you want to make more money then you have to do something different.

If you want a better relationship with your partner then you have to do something different.

If you want to lose weight or have better health then you have to do something different.

You have to take purposeful, strategic action to change your life. Change is uncomfortable, in fact it can be frightening and even painful … but it is absolutely necessary if you want to improve your situation.